The other day I came across one statement: ‘When we are young, we run because we want to explore everything that we can. As we grow older, we walk, because we have learned the right way to go.’ For some reason, it hooked me, made me stop and reflect on it.
I wondered if this would apply to my life? To what extent? Does it have a gender? Does it depend on age or a specific event, after which you know for sure that there is nowhere to rush? Or maybe some people just never stop running, even though they’ve learned the right way to go.
As I mentioned in my previous articles here and here, since childhood, I was running through life like at the races, I couldn’t stop. I tried to be on time everywhere and see everything. I was afraid to miss something important, not knowing what exactly it was. Indeed, I wanted to explore everything I could.
I was extremely impulsive, sweeping away everything in my way. Sometimes it reached the point of absurdity. I remember in my first job, when I literally burst into the offices of colleagues, they pushed their stationery away from the edges of their desks, fearing that I might shake them off. Now when I think about it, I laugh, but then it wasn’t funny at all. I was upset by their actions.
However, one of the events in my life slowed down my long-distance race. It happened when I got pregnant. I was young and definitely not wise enough to know exactly where to go. Rather, it was one of the moments that dramatically change the direction of life, forcing us to reconsider our attitude to the world.
Probably, in the life of every person, there are such turning points. For some, one of these moments could be a meeting with an extraordinary, or, conversely, the most ordinary person. For some – moving to another city or a trip to another country. For others, it’s just buying some small thing or a short walk in the park. Whatever it is, it can happen at any age, and if ‘it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger’ and possibly wiser.
According to experts, in addition to unforeseen events that can happen at any age, there are 8 turning points in our adult life. They take place at predictable times throughout our lives. Decisions we make at these moments affect at least the next seven years of our lives. Therefore, understanding what they are and when they might happen is pivotal to our life and career.
For those who want to know more about these turning points, about what questions to ask yourself before moving on with the flow of your life, take a look here.
There were other important moments in my life, after which I became different. The most significant of them are the death of a very close person to me, the book ‘Two Lives’ written by Concordia Antarova, a serious car accident and several other life-changing events. Sometimes the course of my life radically changed its direction. However, I feel that I am still in a very rush to live and try to embrace immensity.
It looks like I figured out which direction to go, but I can’t calm down and slowly moving along the path of life. Maybe this is because my perception of time is different from the generally accepted one. Or, perhaps, I don’t quite understand what it is – time as a concept.
It is believed that when we are in a hurry, time also accelerates. I didn’t think so about time, but one day, when in a hurry I rushed into the printing service to make a copy of one document, an ordinary typography guy revealed this ‘secret’ to me. He also said that the opposite could be applied to time as well. When we slow down, time also slows down. I definitely should dive deeper into this topic about time…
So, what I have learned for now is that ‘walk or run through life’ is not about age, it’s about turning points, these high-power flashes that turn our lives around and determine who we ultimately become. It is these moments that become our history, our personal hit parade of memories, which don’t necessarily change the speed of our life but definitely change us dramatically.
So, at this point, I realized that “walking or running through life” is not a question of age, these are turning points, these powerful outbreaks that change our lives and determine who we will eventually become. It is these moments that become our history, our personal hit parade of memories, which do not necessarily change the speed of our life but definitely change us radically.
Finally, I would probably paraphrase the opening statement in a slightly different way: ‘When we are young, we run because we want to explore everything that we can. As we go through turning points and gaining experience, we walk because we have developed the wisdom to apply the right leverage in the right place at the right time.’